Working therapeutically with couples
... a practical human givens guide to improving relationships
A one-day course with tutor: Véronique Chown
Course outline:
Every relationship has its ups and downs, but sometimes these become too difficult for a couple to manage on their own.
Véronique Chown's practical course, illustrated with many case histories, looks at the most effective ways to build rapport with and help couples in conflicted relationships. During the day we explore: the sex differences in processing emotions; non-blame talking styles; how the way each person got their emotional needs met in their formative years can sometimes explain why they think and react as they do. How to make interventions that tackle this head on. How to tell when the relationship is not the problem and what to do about it. How successful couples facilitate one another to get their innate physical and emotional needs met.
| What you will gain from the day: | |
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Skills to help you to build rapport with two emotionally-aroused people |
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Ways to help them begin to cooperate in helping each other get their individual emotional needs met |
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How to teach non-blaming communication skills and explain the differences in male and female behaviour to clients |
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New ways to facilitate lasting, beneficial changes in relationships |
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An insight into many common relationship problems; how to help clients to overcome them illustrated with numerous case histories |
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How to use Solution Focussed Questioning to initiate change |
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How to use Guided Imagery with two people |
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Information regarding the latest scientific research into couples therapy – what works and what doesn’t |
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How to make use of tasks and metaphor |
| Who should attend? | |
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Anyone working with couples or families, including psychotherapists, counsellors, social workers, psychologists, teachers, GPs, health visitors and those involved in mental health |
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Anyone who is interested in learning how best to help couples in distress |
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Anyone wanting to overcome their own insecurity in a relationship |
Course programme:
Registration: 8.30am to 9.30am (Tea or coffee before 9.25am)
9.30am – What predicts relationship stability and fulfilment?
The brain science regarding male and female differences and how these impact on relationships. The known ingredients of a healthy, long lasting relationship and how they inform the way human givens therapists work. Dispelling myths. Why human givens couple therapy is so effective. ‘The rule of five’. The role upbringing can have on our behaviour. Tips and techniques to help you to stay balanced and empathic whilst calming the emotional arousal in the room. Case histories from Véronique's extensive work with couples.
11.00am — Refreshment and discussion
11.30am – Structuring therapeutic interventions
Getting to know your clients. How to build rapport quickly by giving equal support to both partners from the start and encouraging both of them to engage with you. How RIGAAR works with two people. Using the Emotional Needs Audit to get to grips with the problem. How to use Solution Focussed Questioning with couples. Mapping the difficulties. What to do when the relationship itself is not the problem. How to recognise and interrupt typical problem patterns. How to seek, highlight and encourage solution patterns. The use of tasks in between sessions.
1.00pm — Lunch (provided)
2.00pm – The common problems couples present with
The many useful ways therapists can help resolve issues such as: trust and jealousy (especially after an affair); the stress faced by working parents; boredom; lack of communication; loss of sexual desire etc. Why explaining to couples the basic biological differences in the way men and women perceive emotional and practical problems is often so therapeutic. How to teach couples to talk to each other in a non-blaming way, listen reflectively and learn to understand and accept their partner’s feelings. Teaching couples how to lower their own emotional arousal and to use a ‘diffuser’ to prevent negativity from escalating.
3.00pm — Refreshment and discussion
3.30pm – Making lasting changes and valuing the bigger context
How to use guided imagery with couples to keep them motivated, activate their resources and facilitate a process of positive change. Many couples are so busy that they don’t have time to think about themselves. Getting across the importance of evaluating individual emotional needs, as well as the needs of the relationship and the wider family. When the needs of all involved are being met as well as possible then most problems evaporate. Life always puts obstacles in the way so we look at how to help couples to manage setbacks successfully by using humour, tolerance, compromise and acceptance.
| YORK: | Date: Thursday 11th October 2012 |
| LONDON: | Date: Wednesday 5th December 2012 |
| PRICE: | £160 plus vat (£192) per person. Fee includes tuition, course notes, attendance certificate, lunch
and refreshments
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To book by phone, call: 01323 811690
Alternatively, you can download an application form and post or fax it to:
Human Givens College,
Chalvington,
East Sussex,
BN27 3TD
fax: 00 44 (0)1323 811486
Also see, How to Book.