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Core Diploma subjectImproving Relationships
- at work, at home and in the community

A NEW one-day course with tutor: Sue Saunders
CPD Certificate (6 hours)

Difficulties between people cause immense distress and confusion, and can be highly destructive. This course clarifies what can go wrong and how best to help.

Why take this course

Whether it’s your siblings, your parents, your children, your friends, your work colleagues or your neighbours, relationships with others can be tricky. We can be best friends one day and arch-enemies the next. What happens when relationships become sour? How does it affect us? How can we help ourselves and others navigate our way through the minefield of friendships with others. When do we call a halt and how do we repair these tricky relationships? Sue Saunder’s 1-day workshop answers those questions and many more.

Since every one of us has to deal with other people on a day-to-day basis, this course has something for everyone. Interpersonal relationships have always caused problems and anyone working with people, particularly counsellors and therapists, will know how tricky it can be assisting others in understanding and negotiating the many pitfalls involved. Conflict in the workplace and difficulties between people in the wider community decrease our effectiveness, take up precious time and cause a lot of heartache.

With a deeper understanding of what drives most problematic behaviour and the barriers to effective communication, it is possible to help people build more positive, respectful relationships, to manage their emotions, improve their communication skills and, importantly, to know when to call time on relationships that are harmful.

What will you learn

  • The causes of most interpersonal relationship problems and conflicts between people
  • The key factors that help or hinder healthy relationships
  • What influences our reactions to the problematic behaviour of others
  • How to spot an unhealthy relationship – and what to do about it
  • The role of secondary gains in driving our behaviour
  • The impact emotions and stress have on our communication with others
  • A clear framework that makes sense of problematic behaviour and helps you see beyond it
  • Insights from neuroscience about important differences between people, and how these can affect their relationships
  • Understanding bullying relationships and what to do about them
  • How sibling rivalry and family jealousies can manifest in other group settings
  • The value of a no-blame stance – and how to achieve it
  • How to spot whether difficulties such as Asperger’s or Caetextia are causing confusion in a person’s relationships with friends, family or colleagues
  • Ways to build better working relationships that increase motivation and co-operation in the workplace
  • Knowing when it’s time to leave a friendship/relationship
  • Improved social and communication skills – with people of all ages and different cultures
  • A better understanding of ourselves and our own relationships
  • A range of practical steps and techniques for helping yourself and others
  • How to give relationships the best chance of succeeding – the key ingredients for a respectful, healthy and nurturing relationship

Who is this course suitable for?

Because human relationships are fundamental to everything we do, the information this course covers is of immense value to everyone – but particularly: psychotherapists, counsellors, HR professionals, mental health professionals, HR personnel, mediators, workplace wellness or wellbeing officers, GPs, social workers, outreach workers, lawyers, occupational therapists, health and welfare professionals, psychologists, teachers, school counsellors etc.


Course Programme

The 'Improving Relationships' course starts at 9.30am and runs until 4.00pm.

The day's agenda

Registration: 8.30am to 9.30am (Tea or coffee served until 9.25am)

9.30am – Why do we find it so hard to get on with some people?

  • The common problems in interpersonal relationships; be they with siblings, children, parents, friends, colleagues etc.
  • What causes these problems and what are the main causes of conflict between people
  • The factors that help or hinder healthy interpersonal relationships, including the benefits of adopting destructive, aggressive or manipulative behaviour
  • The factors that influence our responses to problematic behaviour in others
  • Facts from neuroscience on the differences between people and how they can cause difficulties.
  • Difficulties such as Asperger’s or Caetextia and how to recognise them and how they can cause confusion between people in friendships, couples families, work and other groups
  • How the principles of the human givens approach can help us to make sense of problematic behaviour

11.00am — Discussion over tea/coffee

11.30am – Common problem behaviours between people

  • How unmet needs manifest in destructive ways between people
  • Understanding bullying relationships and how to deal with bullies
  • How to see beyond the behaviour to the unmet needs of the person and manage the emotional reaction to aggressive and bulling people
  • Understanding the role of power in interpersonal relationships
  • How to recognise when it is time to leave a friendship/relationship
  • Sibling rivalry, and jealousy both within the family and how it manifests in other group settings
  • The main causes of emotional upset
  • Learn important communication techniques and search for other peoples unmet needs and strengths using a case study: exercise

1.00pm — Lunch (included)

1.45pm – Practical problem solving – how to overcome difficulties

  • How stress and emotional upset gets in the way of clear communication.
  • How to overcome difficulties in communicating with young people, older people, and other cultures.
  • Pattern matching and its effect on both ourselves and on others.
  • How we see others as we are, and not how they are, and how to move beyond bias
  • How to help others manage their emotional responses.
  • How to use RIGAAR to have a potentially difficult conversation and repair relationships.
  • Using RIGAAR creatively: exercise

2:45pm — Discussion over tea/coffee

3:00pm – Practical steps for helping yourself and your clients

  • The value of a no blame stance in interpersonal relationships
  • Why imagination is such an important tool for self-development
  • How to use stories and metaphors with clients who are stuck in a blaming position with others
  • Strategies to help reframe relationship breakdown
  • How to stop trying to ‘fix’ others, or wishing they were different, and ‘fix’ yourself
  • How to harness mental rehearsal techniques to help people change patterns of behaviour
  • Different approaches to help develop an ‘Observing Self’ in ourselves and others

4.00pm — Day ends

Book now to ensure your place on this new course:

Improving Relationships
- at work, at home and in the community


Friday 9th August 2019                                    Bristol

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Tuesday 8th October 2019                    London

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To book by phone call 01323 811690.
Alternatively, you can download an application form and email or post it to:
Email: info@hgcollege.net
Post: Human Givens College, Chalvington, East Sussex, BN27 3TD.

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