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Couples therapy
– a practical masterclass

A one-day counselling course with tutor: Jennifer Broadley or Véronique Chown
CPD Certificate (6 hours)

What you will gain from attending:

  • Essential skills for building and maintaining rapport with two emotionally-aroused people
  • Ways to encourage both partners to engage in solving their difficulties
  • How to teach non-blaming communication skills and explain the differences in male and female behaviour to clients
  • What to do if one or even both parties are having an affair
  • How to deal with issues specific to couple counselling, such as confidentiality
  • The key points you need to bear in mind when working with more than one client at a time
  • How to structure effective therapy sessions and goal setting with two people
  • Effective ways to help each partner begin to cooperate in helping the other get their emotional needs met
  • The key ingredients for a healthy and mutually rewarding relationship
  • An insight into the many common relationship problems – and how to help clients overcome them (illustrated with case histories)
  • Tips and techniques for staying objective and empathetic, whilst calming your clients' high emotional arousal
  • How to recognise and interrupt disruptive behaviour patterns
  • How to use Solution Focused Questioning to initiate change
  • How to manage setbacks and keep the partners motivated
  • How to tell when the relationship isn't the problem – and what to do about it
  • How to use Guided Imagery with two people
  • Information regarding the latest research into effective couples therapy
  • How early life experiences can influence our relationships, and what to do about this now
  • Creative ways to develop effective interventions, including using tasks and metaphor
  • Asperger's syndrome – how to work with couples if one or both show Asperger traits, a common cause of relationship problems
  • Considering the wider picture, including other family members
  • Course notes, CPD Certificate and more...


About the course

Every relationship has its ups and downs, but sometimes these become too difficult for a couple to manage on their own.

Véronique Chown's one-day couples counselling course draws on pioneering research that reveals what makes relationships flourish and she shares the practical guidelines and skills she has acquired over many years of successfully helping couples using the human givens approach to build and maintain supportive and mutually rewarding relationships.

Presented without psychobabble, and making good use of insightful case histories, Véronique demystifies an area of counselling that many find daunting or fear is complicated.

The day covers: the most effective ways to help and build rapport with couples in conflicted relationships; the sex differences in processing emotions; non-blame talking styles; the long-term impact of parenting; past conditioning, including psychological traumas, that can give clues about why difficulties arose; and what we can learn from the way successful couples facilitate mutual needs satisfaction.

Please note:
Relationship issues are one of the most common causes of emotional distress and often the reason people seek help – a solid understanding of why difficulties arise and what can be done about them is extremely useful therefore for all caring professionals – even those not specifically working with couples.

Who should attend?

  • Anyone working with couples or families, including psychotherapists, counsellors, social workers, psychologists, teachers, GPs, health visitors and those involved in mental health
  • Anyone who is interested in learning solution focussed, brief therapy interventions, working with the human givens, to facilitate a rapid process of change for couples in distress.
  • Anyone wanting to overcome their own insecurity in a relationship

Please Note: This course is not a substitute for individual therapy

Course Programme

The 'Couples therapy – a practical masterclass' counselling course starts at 9.30am and runs until 4.00pm.

The day's programme

Registration: 8.30am to 9.30am (Tea or coffee served until 9.25am)

9.30am – What predicts relationship stability and fulfilment?

  • The common problems couples present with and how therapists can help resolve issues such as: trust and jealousy (especially after an affair); the stress faced by working parents; boredom; lack of communication; loss of sexual desire etc.
  • Illuminating facts from brain science regarding male and female differences and how these impact on relationships
  • Why explaining to couples the basic biological differences in the way men and women perceive emotional and practical problems is often so helpful
  • The known ingredients of a healthy, long lasting relationship and how they inform the way human givens therapists work
  • Dispelling the myths about relationships
  • Why working from human givens principles facilitates rapid change (when couples want to stay together)
  • Exercise: Getting to know each other again.
  • ‘Using the Emotional Needs Audit to get to grips with the problem/s and ascertain which emotional needs are not being met for each partner
  • The rule of five’
  • The role upbringing can have on our behaviour
  • Case histories from Véronique's extensive work with couples

11.00am – Discussion over tea/coffee

11.30am – Building empathy, how to use RIGAAR™

  • How to build rapport with two distressed people
  • Getting to know your clients. How to build rapport quickly by giving equal support to both partners from the start and encouraging both of them to engage with you
  • Tips and techniques to help you to stay balanced and empathic whilst calming the emotional arousal in the room
  • How to encourage both partners to engage in solving their difficulties
  • How to use the RIGAAR™ model with two people to structure your sessions and create successful interventions
  • How to teach couples to talk to each other in a non-blaming way, listen reflectively and learn to understand and accept their partner’s feelings
  • Exercise: improving communication
  • Teaching couples how to lower their own emotional arousal and to use a ‘diffuser’ to prevent negativity from escalating
  • How to work directly with poor childhood attachment issues: case histories
  • How to help couples to feel less criticised, less defensive and more co-operative

1.00pm – Lunch (included)

1.45pm – Structuring therapeutic interventions, establishing goals, and moving forward

  • How to use Solution Focused Questioning with couples – one of the most useful therapeutic skills you can learn
  • When to use individual sessions
  • What to do when the relationship itself is not the problem
  • How to recognise and interrupt typical problem patterns
  • How to then seek, highlight and encourage solution patterns
  • Setting tasks in between sessions – case histories
  • How to use guided imagery with couples to keep them motivated, activate their resources and facilitate a process of positive change
  • Exercise: how to separate the couple from the problem, encourage each to see things from their partner’s perspective and reframe problems in terms of needs not being met

2.45pm – Discussion over tea/coffee

3.00pm – Valuing the bigger context

  • Working safely
  • Sexual problems
  • What you can change and what you can't – we look at how to recognise right and left-brained Asperger's Syndrome (Caetextia), which often cause difficulties in relationships
  • How to work with couples where one or both are caetextic – including case histories
  • Many couples are so busy that they don’t have time to think about themselves – we discuss getting across the importance of evaluating individual emotional needs, as well as the needs of the relationship and the wider family
  • Considering the needs of any children and the wider family – when the needs of all involved are being met as well as possible then most problems evaporate
  • Life always puts obstacles in the way so we look at how to help couples to manage setbacks successfully by using humour, tolerance, compromise and acceptance
  • Ethical dilemmas and general discussion

4.00pm — Day ends

Book your place on this hugely popular course:

Couples therapy – a practical masterclass

Wednesday 18th September 2019                London

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Email: info@hgcollege.net
Post: Human Givens College, Chalvington, East Sussex, BN27 3TD.

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